Midlife Mania: Life Can Be Sweet In the Middle

Midlife Mania. A lot of us can relate.

As a pastor’s wife, I’ve connected with lots of women who straddle that section of nidlife between adult children and growing grandkids on one side and aging parent issues on the other. In fact, minus the grandchildren, I’m there myself. Just a few days ago, in back-to-back phone calls, I went from talking wedding plans with my oldest daughter to reassuring my aging mother that whatever she wore to the wedding was really all right as long as she was comfortable while subtly slipping in fashion suggestions.

So when I first read Robin’s blog article bout midlife issues, I raised my hand and said, “Me! That’s me!” Robin has some great advice on how to turn life from Stuck in the Middle to Sweet in the Middle.

Here’s Robin.

Stuck in the Sweet in the Middle
by Robin Steinweg

Do you ever feel you’re in that awkward, in-between stage? I sure do!

I recently spent years stuck in a crushing middle. Round and round I turned from the growing needs of aging parents to those of growing sons to those of work. I’d carve hours from sleepless nights to write, compose, or read. More often to pray. My husband accepted leftovers with grace and gratitude. Not just food, but time and energy. He was stuck in his own middle, caring for his dad and doing more for my parents than can be recorded.

Now our parents are gone. I’m living in the middle of grief, rediscovering who I am if no longer a caregiver. Looking to experience—and to pass on—the rich life Jesus came to give us (John 10:10). Know what? God shows me things I can do so He can help me move forward. I’m not stuck here. I get to be here, where it can be sweet in the middle!

If you’re in the midst of circumstances or even past them, it’s never too late to rediscover who you are.

Try some of the following:

• Develop friendships with people who will build you up.
• Find ways to build others up.
• Journal what you’re going through as a way to release feelings.
• Photo journal or doodle journal.
• Admit if you need help.
• Get more color in your surroundings/clothing.
• List your blessings.
• Express more gratitude.
• Find ways to expand or share your hobbies.
• Join a book club.
• Volunteer to help others.
• If you have grieving to do, do it whole-heartedly. But don’t stay there.
• Live fully. Enjoy what God gives you to enjoy.
• Dream again. Don’t hold back—dream big. What does God have for you next?

These ideas have helped. Yes, I still pick up the phone to call my mom or find jigsaw puzzles for my dad. I still if wonder I could have, should have done more for them. Guilt and remorse creep in.

But I realize that’s the voice of our enemy, the accuser. So I intentionally turn to words of life in God’s Word. I leave my broken heart at Jesus’ feet. I embrace the blessings He sends my way. I affirm this truth: It is Sweet in the Middle!

About the Author

Robin Steinweg says life is like a sandwich-cookie. Whatever circumstances close in on us, it can be Sweet in the Middle. Her writings can be found in Today’s Christian Woman, Upper Room, Secret Place and The Christian Pulse. She also writes monthly for Music Teachers Helper blog.